Love and money has often existed side by side from time immemorial, and in recent years many have argued that love without money will always be a boring experience. This was further collaborated during the latest episode of Doyin’s Corner tagged “Speaking Our Truth”, anchored by ex Big Brother Naija housemate, Doyinsola David, popularly known as Doyin or Dozzy.
In the episode in question, Doyin had a conversation with her fellow BBNaija housemate, Chizzy Francis, during which they had an extensive conversation on their experiences during Big Brother Naija Season-7, on their relationship both inside and outside the reality show. They also talked about societal issues including marriage and money.
According to Chizzy Francis during the latest episode of Doyin’s Corner, he admonished his fellow men, told them to stop dragging women into marriages when they (the male gender) have not made enough money to give their wives the sort of quality lifestyle they want. Also, that they should allow women to go and be with men who have made enough money, who will also give them the quality treatment they truly deserve.
Meanwhile, going forward, he stated that he’s not saying that poor men shouldn’t get married, but that a man should have something doing, a reliable source of income, before thinking of going into marriage.
“Not just source of income, a good source of income,” Doyin interjected, and also made it clear that she can not get married to a man who has nothing doing.
Further, she equally stated that a woman should have a reasonable amount of money saved up somewhere before she gets into marriage. And a bit surprised at that comment from her, Chizzy pressed her to state the exact amount of money a woman should have before going into marriage as suggested by her.
She then replied, saying, “a woman should have between 5-10 million Naira saved up somewhere before thinking of going into marriage”.
Then she went ahead to reveal that her father died while she was still very young, and though while her dad was alive he provided virtually everything they needed for them. But the fact that her mother wasn’t broke on her side made it difficult for them to feel the absence of her dad when he died that early, as her mother immediately took up the family responsibilities. And that it was years later that she began feeling the absence of her dad.
As such, this is her reason for saying that every woman should have a reasonable amount of money saved up somewhere before getting married. Because according to her, there are school fees, house rent, clothing, feeding, and other inevitable family expenses to take care of in case of eventualities like that of her family were her father died while she and her siblings were still very tender.
Meanwhile, this conversation will hardly have a definite conclusion or a consensus opinion, because it boils down to what is the best for you or me. Yes, because some will always maintain that they won’t get into marriage if they haven’t made enough money, while some others will tell you that since they got married that their door of success opened- that marriage opens a man’s door of success. Hence, why it will always be very difficult to have a consensus on this conversation.